https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes daily 0.75 2026-03-30 https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/john-and-jamie-shouldnt-open-their-marriage monthly 0.5 2026-03-31 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/51af2fd5-14f3-475a-a0f6-33b95e9310fe/John+and+Jamie+Shouldn%27t+Open+Their+Marriage.png Episodes - John and Jamie Shouldn't Open Their Marriage - Meet John and Jamie, a made-up couple with a very real story. What do you think? Should they open their marriage? -------------- Show Links: Emily Nagoski on Making Polyamory Work: https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/makingpolywork/episodes/Maintenance-Sx-with-Emily-Nagoski-e2kpe5p/a-abbns15 Fair Play by Eve Rodsky: https://bookshop.org/a/91754/9780525541943 All About Love by bell hooks: https://bookshop.org/a/91754/9780060959470 (I also recommend The Will to Change by the same author) -------------- Also! Libby has created a workbook based on the most popular episodes of the podcast — with simple practices and reflection questions so that you can apply this stuff to your life. Go to https://libbysinback.com/workbook to get your copy. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/primal-panic monthly 0.5 2026-03-30 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/ddec549c-4945-4bec-81af-f61912f90be9/Primal+Panic.png Episodes - Primal Panic - Sometimes in polyamorous relationships, our attachment system gets activated, something Jessica Fern calls "primal panic" in her book Polysecure. In this episode, Libby discusses primal panic, what can trigger it, and some tools to navigate it. -------------- Links: Join Libby for an Open Community Call: https://go.libbysinback.com/community-calls Polysecure by Jessica Fern: https://bookshop.org/a/91754/9781944934989 Leaning In Episode: https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/makingpolywork/episodes/Leaning-In-e3c7lgc/a-acbv8i2 -------------- Also! Libby has created a workbook based on the most popular episodes of the podcast — with simple practices and reflection questions so that you can apply this stuff to your life. Go to https://libbysinback.com/workbook to get your copy. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/datingsuccess monthly 0.5 2026-03-17 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/a14db35a-6f75-4b7a-b378-1e39876537e5/I%27m+Having+Dating+Success%2C+but+my+Partner+Isn%27t.png Episodes - I’m Having Dating Success, but my Partner Isn’t - Libby is joined by Mel Cassidy, author of the new book, Radical Relating, A Queer and Polyamory-Informed Guide to Love Beyond the Myth of Monogamy to answer a listener question: how do I handle things if I'm having dating success and my partner isn't? I'm having a joyful, expansive experience, and my partner is sitting on the bench feeling unwanted and envious? This experience is so common and Libby and Mel dive into some tools that can help including some somatic practices for both people. -------------- Mel Cassidy's website: https://radicalrelating.ca/ Mel's book: https://bookshop.org/a/91754/9798889842453 Mel's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/radicalrelating/? -------------- Links: Join an Open Community Call https://go.libbysinback.com/community-calls What Actually Makes Polyamory Work - the Workshop https://libbysinback.com/workshop -------------- Also! Libby has created a workbook based on the most popular episodes of the podcast — with simple practices and reflection questions so that you can apply this stuff to your life. Go to https://libbysinback.com/workbook to get your copy. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/incoming monthly 0.5 2026-03-03 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/19bead45-32ca-4f23-ba9b-6177bba576ed/Incoming.png Episodes - Incoming - Most advice about polyamory focuses on established couples, often overlooking the unique challenges faced by "incoming partners" aka those entering a relationship with someone who already has a long-established relationship. In this episode, Libby offers support and advice for those incoming partners so that they can feel empowered in a situation that can feel really tricky to navigate. -------------- Episodes referenced in the episode: Veto Happens https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/makingpolywork/episodes/When-is-it-Okay-to-Have-a-One-Pnis-Policy-e1ddpq3 Is Hierarchy Bad? https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/makingpolywork/episodes/Is-Hierarchy-bad-e2hu61d A Rule is just a Bad Agreement https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/makingpolywork/episodes/A-Rule-is-just-a-Bad-Agreement-e1alt5u One P*nis Policy https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/makingpolywork/episodes/When-is-it-Okay-to-Have-a-One-Pnis-Policy-e1ddpq3 How to Date a Couple https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/makingpolywork/episodes/Dating-as-a-Couple-e2b7u8a This May be a Bitter Pill https://creators.spotify.com/pod/profile/makingpolywork/episodes/This-May-Be-a-Bitter-Pill-e1e1eoe -------------- Links: Join an Open Community Call https://go.libbysinback.com/community-calls What Actually Makes Polyamory Work - the Workshop https://libbysinback.com/workshop -------------- Also! Libby has created a workbook based on the most popular episodes of the podcast — with simple practices and reflection questions so that you can apply this stuff to your life. Go to https://libbysinback.com/workbook to get your copy. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/polyamoryandcohabiting-withlauraboyle monthly 0.5 2026-02-16 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/cb54b515-2770-4005-aca3-bc7435776e6e/Polyamory+and+Cohabiting+with+Laura+Boyle.png Episodes - Polyamory and Cohabiting with Laura Boyle - Libby invites Laura Boyle of Ready for Polyamory to join her on the show to talk about living together, chores, finances, coparenting, and more - all things having to do with cohabiting and polyamory. -------------- Laura's website: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/ Laura's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/readyforpolyamory/ Monogamy? In this Economy? (The Book): https://bookshop.org/a/91754/9781805011187 -------------- Also! Libby has created a workbook based on the most popular episodes of the podcast — with simple practices and reflection questions so that you can apply this stuff to your life. Go to https://libbysinback.com/workbook to get your copy. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/good-grief monthly 0.5 2026-02-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/d3e3ea2b-2d30-4697-9e64-b5659cb4156f/Good+Grief.png Episodes - Good Grief - Libby talks about feeling grief and letting it move through you rather than being in a state of constant fixing as a way of avoiding it. Also! Libby has created a workbook based on the most popular episodes of the podcast — with simple practices and reflection questions so that you can apply this stuff to your life. Go to https://libbysinback.com/workbook to get your copy. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/is-this-okay-with-mia-schacter monthly 0.5 2026-01-20 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/1dab4628-c37f-414b-9560-6c99ef89a02b/Is+this+Okay%3F+with+Mia+Schacter.png Episodes - Is this Okay? with Mia Schacter - Libby invites Mia Schacter of Consent Wizardry to join her to answer two listener questions. The first one asks, what if I don't feel intense NRE with a new partner? Does that mean something or is it okay? The second asks, Is it okay for me to not want my partner to date monogamous people or is that something I need to learn to be okay with? Also! Libby has created a workbook based on the most popular episodes of the podcast — with simple practices and reflection questions so that you can apply this stuff to your life. Go to https://libbysinback.com/workbook to get your copy. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/leaning-in monthly 0.5 2026-01-14 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/3fc0d92c-3bf9-4875-a765-8cb6a919e913/Leaning+In.png Episodes - Leaning In - Libby invites her spouse, Drew, to talk the established partner's side of the experience Libby described in ‘Gamechanger’ episode. Also! Libby has created a workbook based on the most popular episodes of the podcast — with simple practices and reflection questions so that you can apply this stuff to your life. Go to https://libbysinback.com/workbook to get your copy. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/game-changer monthly 0.5 2025-12-15 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/dfae2f44-acba-474d-af0f-a44f6d61605d/Offer+or+Request.png Episodes - Gamechanger - What happens when a new relationship completely upends everything you thought you knew about yourself? What if that person is a catalyst for more love, sexiness, and aliveness than you ever thought was possible? What does that mean for your existing relationship(s)? Also! Libby has created a workbook based on the most popular episodes of the podcast — with simple practices and reflection questions so that you can apply this stuff to your life. Go to https://libbysinback.com/workbook to get your copy. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/open-or-closed monthly 0.5 2025-12-04 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/1764017246779-RP7BSYQPZG9AC5405S37/dating+someone+with+an+established+partner+%282%29.png Episodes - Should You Start Out Open Or Closed? - Libby answers a common listener question: Should you start a new relationship open from the beginning when you both know you want non-mongamy, or should you be monogamous while you establish your partnership? Even if you don't have this question, there's something for everyone here in Libby's thoughtful return to Making Polyamory Work. Also! Libby has created a workbook based on the most popular episodes of the podcast — with simple practices and reflection questions so that you can apply this stuff to your life. Go to https://libbysinback.com/workbook to get your copy. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/maintenance-sex monthly 0.5 2025-10-08 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/1718769494367-CKLIQD4R65NDNJZK2Y3W/Maintenance+Sex+with+Emily+Nagoski.png Episodes - Maintenance Sex with Emily Nagoski Part 2 - In Part 2 of Libby's conversation with Emily Nagoski, there's a deeper conversation about the concept of "maintenance sex" and how you may be doing it to safe your relationship, but it may actually be destroying it. Emily Nagoski's website: ⁠https://www.emilynagoski.com/⁠ Emily Nagoski on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/enagoski/⁠ Emily Nagoski's books (highly recommended!): https://bookshop.org/contributors/emily-nagoski-4318b5e2-0f22-4415-963b-ce5a1f467607 https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/forget-the-spark monthly 0.5 2024-06-25 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/1718768216871-BH98ODIU6DNJBFX5ALZS/Forget+the+Spark+with+Emily+Nagoski.png Episodes - Forget the Spark with Emily Nagoski Part 1 - The amazing Emily Nagoski joins Libby on Making Polyamory Work to drop truth bomb after truth bomb about sex in long-term relationships. Emily Nagoski's website: ⁠https://www.emilynagoski.com/⁠ Emily Nagoski on Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/enagoski/⁠ Emily Nagoski's books (highly recommended!): https://bookshop.org/contributors/emily-nagoski-4318b5e2-0f22-4415-963b-ce5a1f467607 https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/relationship-diversity-y229p-z823s monthly 0.5 2024-06-24 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/1718766599477-BU343ZEV6VXN04H62P7I/Why+Aren%27t+You+Being+Fair.png Episodes - Why Aren't You Being Fair? - The Multiamory crew takes over Making Polyamory Work to talk about aggressive fairness in polyamory, what it looks like, and how you can find equity in your relationships. Multiamory's website: ⁠https://www.multiamory.com/ https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/relationship-diversity-y229p monthly 0.5 2024-06-19 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/1718104839627-LKUMWAPO0LQ9KAZP1T7K/dating+tip.png Episodes - My #1 Dating Tip - Let's think about dating and rejection differently. Shine your light. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/relationship-diversity monthly 0.5 2024-06-11 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/1717405307305-91762IS513XH49A175Q1/carrie+episode+cover.png Episodes - Relationship Diversity with Carrie Jeroslow - What happens when your relationship (or your life) doesn't look the way you thought it would or were told it was supposed to look? Libby talks with Carrie Jeroslow about how having a relationship diversity mindset may help you make peace and even embrace with how your life and love actually work for YOU. Carrie's Website: ⁠https://www.carriejeroslow.com/ https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/how-to-get-help monthly 0.5 2024-06-03 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/ea918882-610d-4f26-ba4e-d223f95668a9/How+to+Get+Help.png Episodes - How to Get Help - If you're struggling and need help with your relationships, where should you turn? Libby shares her advice on how to find good help. Meta analyses of studies that show that therapeutic alliance matters more than therapeutic modality for positive outcomes in therapy: https://psycnet.apa.org/PsycARTICLES/journal/pst/55/4 APA article explaining: https://www.apa.org/monitor/2019/11/ce-corner-relationships https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/nerding-out-on-compersion monthly 0.5 2024-05-22 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/3ffca297-47c1-4347-abd9-60b9df87bf4a/nerding+out+on+compersion+with+Marie+Thouin.png Episodes - Nerding out on Compersion with Marie Thouin - What is compersion? Can you cultivate compersion in yourself and in your relationships? Libby invites Marie Thouin, PhD to discuss her research and book on this important and sometimes misunderstood topic in polyamory. SHOW LINKS Marie's book! Marie's Compersion Resources Marie's Coaching Website Marie's Instagram https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/community-care monthly 0.5 2024-05-17 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/1715757591098-YJFTWALGCLJQ8EXF875T/community+care+with+Genevieve+of+Chill+Polyamory.png Episodes - Community Care with Genevieve of Chill Polyamory - Libby is joined by Genevieve King of Chill Polyamory to discuss individualism, community care, and ways you can shift your mindset to ecological thinking within polyamorous (or not!) relationship structures. SHOW LINKS Genevieve's Instagram Genevieve on YouTube Genevieve's website ⁠ https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/sexual-health-when-youre-positive monthly 0.5 2024-05-15 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/1e46162c-fde1-45a1-9625-560b1aa2b2ac/sexual+health+when+you%27re+positive+with+Courtney+Brame.png Episodes - Sexual Health When You're Positive with Courtney Brame - SHOW LINKS Something Positive for Positive People SPFPP Podcast ⁠https://www.spfpp.org/podcast⁠ Herpes Stigma Virtual Conference in May Courtney's Instagram https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/offer-or-request monthly 0.5 2024-05-07 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/277a39c2-4fcd-4ae0-b1c6-cf6cb4b246a8/Offer+or+Request.png Episodes - Offer or Request? - Libby discusses the distinction between offers and requests in relating and how important it can be to make sure you're saying what you actually mean. SHOW LINKS Kai Cheng Thom's Instagram Spectrum of Consent Marcia Baczynski on Desire Smuggling 27 Alternatives to "Is this Okay?" https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/navigating-asexuality monthly 0.5 2024-05-01 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/fc013405-61fb-4399-86a2-c09cacd01e49/Navigating+Asexuality+with+Aubri+Lancaster.png Episodes - Navigating Asexuality with Aubri Lancaster - Libby talks with AASECT-certified sexuality educator Aubri Lancaster about asexuality and aromanticism. SHOW LINKS Aubri's website: ⁠https://acesexeducation.com/⁠ Aubri's Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/acesexeducation/⁠ https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/is-hierarchy-bad monthly 0.5 2024-04-24 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/00816e2d-7212-4f34-bdfd-77b56def82b2/Is+Hierarchy+bad.png Episodes - Is Hierarchy Bad? - Libby shares her thoughts about debate about whether hierarchy is bad or wrong in polyamory. SHOW LINKS Additional reading: Lola Phoenix - the Hierarchy Polyamorous People Don't Talk Enough About Ready for Polyamory - Is there a Problem with Hierarchy Poly.Land - Sneakiarchy Joreth Retracts Descriptive vs Prescriptive Hierarchy Podcast episodes referenced in the episode: Veto Happens Where is this Going? https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/unmet-needs-in-polyamory monthly 0.5 2024-04-17 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/1fc58814-fd6a-4f09-8f00-825c8b94a54f/unmet+needs+ep.png Episodes - Unmet Needs in Polyamory - Most folks practicing nonmonogamy accept that no one person can meet all their needs. And yet, sometimes it can be challenging when a new partner starts meeting needs that haven't been met by an established relationship. In this episode Libby explores the trickiness when new relationships fulfill desires that established ones don't some ideas to help you navigate this situation well. SHOW LINKS There’s Nothing to Fear Relationships of a Modern Marriage Where is this going? This may be a bitter pill https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/seriously-compassion monthly 0.5 2024-02-20 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/fb09307e-8e1a-443b-923f-81ee67249125/seriously+compassion.png Episodes - Seriously! Compassion - This week Libby shares a re-release from December 2019 about the science of compassion, and why it's key to loving relationships, including the one with yourself. SHOW LINKS The Gottman Institute on Contempt The Harvard Business Review on Self-Compassion About the Carleton University Study on Self-Compassion and Procrastination Kristin Neff's Website on Self-Compassion ⁠ https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/sacred-unraveling-in-polyamory monthly 0.5 2024-02-06 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/76cfae14-43c3-4918-ad2b-cca943fcb06d/Joli+Hamilton+-+Discrepancies+for+Polyamory.png Episodes - Sacred Unraveling in Polyamory with Joli Hamilton - Part two of Libby's conversation with Dr. Joli Hamilton where they discuss how navigating differences can open a relationship and the people in it into transformation SHOW LINKS Joli’s website The Year of Opening https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/individuation-and-navigating-differences monthly 0.5 2024-02-06 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/76cfae14-43c3-4918-ad2b-cca943fcb06d/Joli+Hamilton+-+Discrepancies+for+Polyamory.png Episodes - Individuation and Navigating Differences with Joli Hamilton - What happens when exploring different relationship styles reveals uncomfortable differences between you and a partner? In this episode, Libby talks with Dr. Joli Hamilton about polyamory as a sacred process of individuation and grief. SHOW LINKS Joli’s website The Year of Opening https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/solo-polyamory monthly 0.5 2024-02-05 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/f2f5a0c2-1e7f-4147-8079-e7d22260bc4e/solo+polyamory+with+Crystal+Byrd+Farmer++.png Episodes - Solo Polyamory with Crystal Byrd Farmer - Long-requested, Libby discusses solo polyamory with Crystal Byrd Farmer, author, organizer, diversity consultant.. and solo polyamorist. SHOW LINKS Crystal's website Crystal's book⁠ Solo Polyamory https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/polyamory-and-neurodivergence-with-alyssa-gonzalez-pt-2 monthly 0.5 2024-01-25 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/f17def65-4d24-4b19-88a2-54022390eb82/alyssa+interview+pt+2.png Episodes - Polyamory and Neurodivergence with Alyssa Gonzalez Pt. 2 - In this part 2, Libby and Alyssa talk through some of the challenges that can show up in nonmonogamy for people who are neurodiverse https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/polyamory-and-neurodivergence-with-alyssa-gonzalez-pt-1 monthly 0.5 2024-01-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/0741b83d-a42b-406c-9545-ed6fda18f387/alyssa+interview+pt+1.png Episodes - Polyamory and Neurodivergence with Alyssa Gonzalez Pt. 1 - Libby and Alyssa discuss being neurodiverse and how polyamory and being neurodiverse can complement each other beautifully. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/triangulation monthly 0.5 2023-12-26 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/cd4ca2ee-f6bc-473f-92a0-06489df21fc6/Triangulation+aren%E2%80%99t+magic.png Episodes - Triangulation - Triangles show up in relationships all over the place. In this episode Libby discusses triangulation, what it is, common ways it can show up in polyamory, and whether triangulation can harm or help. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/when-i-dont-use-boundaries monthly 0.5 2023-12-19 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/8a478407-b402-46ad-b9b4-aea09d68e2c5/when+i+don%27t+use+boundaries+%281%29.png Episodes - When I Don't Use Boundaries - Libby talks through when she personally does NOT opt for boundaries, and why boundaries are often the last move she will make in navigating relationship difficulties. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/what-is-a-boundary-violation-with-juliane-taylor-shore monthly 0.5 2023-12-13 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/ec541015-3be7-4c5d-9a48-0f6b10fc4e61/what+is+a+boundary+violation.png Episodes - What is a Boundary Violation?with Juliane Taylor Shore - Libby and Jules answer a listener who asks, "If boundaries are between you and you, then what is a boundary violation?" Jules also goes over her 6 steps to setting an external boundary. Jules' Website Jules’ Book, Setting Boundaries that Stick https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/your-brain-on-boundaries-with-juliane-taylor-shore monthly 0.5 2023-12-05 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/1701177144167-RO3FWMLI8F03IRZZ1OJT/your+brain+on+boundaries.png Episodes - Your Brain on Boundaries with Juliane Taylor Shore - Libby is joined by author and therapist Juliane Taylor Shore to talk about internal boundaries and how crucial they are (even though they are often not talked about or overlooked when people talk about boundaries.) https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/codependence monthly 0.5 2023-11-28 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/aad00d32-5748-4b00-a152-52b7182fcde5/codependence.png Episodes - Codependence - The word "codependent" comes up a lot in polyamory spaces, but so often it is misused that it's losing its meaning. Libby talks about her dislike of the term, how she thinks it often is used to shame and pathologize perfectly normal human needs, and how she likes to talk about codependence differently. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/boundaries-arent-magic monthly 0.5 2023-11-20 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/6455ac23-67b7-44da-941e-dab773576348/boundaries+aren%E2%80%99t+magic.png Episodes - Boundaries Aren’t Magic - A lot of people are talking about boundaries now. But as Inigo Montoya once said, "You keep using that word. I do not think it means what you think it means." In this episode Libby explains that boundaries are not a magic way to get people to do what you want them to do. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/dating-as-a-couple monthly 0.5 2023-11-13 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/6b2abdf9-900d-4c05-a489-115fdabbffde/dating+as+a+couple.png Episodes - Dating as a Couple - Nothing is a hot-button topic quite like a couple looking to date the same person. A lot of people have only one piece of advice, "Don't," often served with heaping portions of shame and ridicule. Yet, year after year, established couples seek to find a shared partner, and many folks also seek relationships with established couples. Is there something to this? In this episode, Libby offers some thoughts on why you might want to date as a couple (or date a couple) and some helpful ideas on how to do this well. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/polyamory-after-an-affair monthly 0.5 2023-11-07 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/1425eee5-53ca-42c0-91be-aee00c008388/polyamory+after+an+affair.png Episodes - Polyamory After an Affair - Increasingly, Libby hears from folks who are interested in polyamory to solve a problem: either they or their partner cheated, and they want to repair and stay together, and nonmonogamy seems like a solution. In this episode, Libby outlines why it's rarely that simple. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/the-heart-wants-what-it-wants monthly 0.5 2023-12-29 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/77a405f1-bc34-42f0-ab6f-192f2d6fd827/The+heart+wants+what+it+wants.png Episodes - The Heart Wants What it Wants - Libby offers an uncomfortable but necessary reality check: love alone doesn't conquer all. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/uhauling monthly 0.5 2023-04-20 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/419ae64c-f35a-456d-a4cd-aa5c26051d4a/uhauling.png Episodes - Uhauling - Maybe you know the joke, maybe you don't, but showing up for a second date with a uhaul can be risky. In this episode, Libby goes over why she thinks cohabiting during the new relationship energy (NRE) phase might not be the best idea, and what to do instead. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/whats-your-story monthly 0.5 2023-04-15 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/26d1308b-1308-43a7-95cf-e99dff7df85f/what%27s+your+story.png Episodes - What’s Your Story? - We all carry stories with us about who we are, our place in the world, how others will see us, and what's possible for our lives. Some of these stories are stories we like, some are stories we want to write a new ending to. But did you know that try as you might to change the story, there's an invisible force that may be acting on you that might sabotage your efforts? In this episode, Libby talks about how your very own brain can stop you from changing your story, and some ideas for what you can do about that. SHOW LINKS Seven and a Half Lessons About the Brain by Lisa Feldman Barrett Juliane Taylor Shore Implicit memory and memory reconsolidation https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/revoke-your-moral-license monthly 0.5 2023-04-10 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/c2bc1c72-944e-4857-bad5-49946a972c08/revoke+your+moral+license Episodes - Revoke Your Moral License - Do you sometimes use doing "the right" or "good' things as an excuse to then turn around and do "bad" or "selfish" things? There's a name for this - it's called moral licensing, and it may not just be messing up your goals, but possibly your relationships. SHOW LINKS The Willpower Instinct by Kelly McGonagal Article on Moral Licensing https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/dont-ask-dont-tell-with-jessica-fern-part-2 monthly 0.5 2023-03-27 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/39d84f42-4b82-4b52-b2d1-7e33f6ba4d35/don%27t+ask+don%27t+tell.png Episodes - Don't Ask, Don't Tell with Jessica Fern (Part 2) - In Part 2, Polysecure author, Jessica Fern and Libby talk about a very specific arrangement that relates to privacy/secrecy: the Don't Ask, Don't Tell (DADT) relationship. Together they discuss why you might want a DADT arrangement, when it can work, and when it might not. SHOW LINKS Polysecure books Southwest Lovefest (use code 'go slow' for 10% off) https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/privacy-secrecy-and-transparency-with-jessica-fern-part-1 monthly 0.5 2023-12-29 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/df4bff31-a713-49b3-848c-8881db47fe12/privacy%2C+secrecy+and+transparency.png Episodes - Privacy, Secrecy, and Transparency with Jessica Fern (Part 1) - Polysecure author, Jessica Fern joins Libby to talk about a much-asked for topic, Privacy, Secrecy and Transparency. Together they share their own experiences, what they've learned, and how they advise people to handle sharing information. It can be tricky, but there are ways to make it easier! SHOW LINKS Polysecure books Southwest Lovefest (use code 'go slow' for 10% off) https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/the-ladder-of-accountability monthly 0.5 2023-12-29 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/b03c23b7-c376-4653-a54b-d17cc0220b1f/The+Ladder+of+Accountability.png Episodes - The Ladder of Accountability - Libby shares one of her favorite tools for owning your ish when you mess up with someone you care about. SHOW LINKS Southwest Lovefest (use code 'go slow' for 10% off) https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/what-if-we-dont-have-sex-with-chanee-jackson-kendall monthly 0.5 2023-03-07 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/09b43121-c833-403b-96b7-7e987a5433b5/What+If+We+Don%27t+Have+Sex_+with+Chane%C3%A9+Jackson+Kendall.png Episodes - What if We Don't Have Sex? With Chaneè Jackson Kendall - Chaneè and Libby answer a question from a listener who identifies as asexual who asked about non-sexual polyamorous relationships. Chaneè identifies as almost-megasexual, Libby identifies as greyace/demisexual, so you can imagine that it is a RICH conversation. They talk about nonsexual partnerships, chosen family, grief, vulnerability and choosing the love that you want for your life. This one is not to be missed! SHOW LINKS Amatonormativity Relationship Smorgasbord Southwest Lovefest (use code 'go slow' for 10% off): Find Chaneè on Instagram The Intentional Polyamory Cohort Schedule time with Chaneè https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/relational-privilege-with-akilah-riley-richardson-part-2 monthly 0.5 2023-02-28 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/93f6fae7-82e3-4177-ab7f-4570025d84c4/relational+privilege+1+%282%29.png Episodes - Relational Privilege with Akilah Riley-Richardson Part 2 - In part 2 of Libby's conversation with Akilah Riley-Richardson, Akilah shares her PRIDE model for supporting couples who are working to create safety and resilience in their relationships. SHOW LINKS Akilah's website Relational Privilege and Sytemic Trauma Course CourseResmaa Menekem: My Grandmother's Hands Southwest Love Fest (use code "goslow" for 10% off!) https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/relational-privilege-with-akilah-riley-richardson-part-1 monthly 0.5 2023-02-22 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/a083f998-683b-4a02-9c6b-d662b0eaad5e/relational+privilege+1.png Episodes - Relational Privilege with Akilah Riley-Richardson Part 1 - In this episode, Libby talks with couples therapist and trauma specialist Akilah Riley-Richardson about relational privilege and how essential it is to create safety in order to find intimacy. (Part 1 of 2) SHOW LINKS Akilah's website Relational Privilege and Sytemic Trauma Course Resmaa Menekem: My Grandmother's Hands Southwest Love Fest (use code "goslow" for 10% off!) https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/values-and-belonging-2 monthly 0.5 2023-02-22 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/b98e3383-596e-4ffc-aabe-af637acc25fc/values+and+belonging+p2.png Episodes - Values and Belonging Pt 2 - In Part 2 of this episode, Libby shares her journey to getting clear on her values, figuring out how to act within her integrity and how that led her to find her way to true belonging. SHOW LINKS Braving the Wilderness by Brene Brown Southwest Love Fest (Use code "GOSLOW" for a 10% discount) https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/values-and-belonging-1 monthly 0.5 2023-02-09 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/06355ec6-c406-457c-98f2-c3cec3244ad3/values+and+belonging+p1.png Episodes - Values and Belonging Pt 1 - Libby introduces a new season of Making Polyamory Work with a very personal reflection on belonging, fitting in, values and integrity. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/coming-out-to-your-kids monthly 0.5 2023-02-07 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/68340107-542e-4584-aee1-ecb90ddcc435/coming+out+to+your+kidsleave+room+in+a+crisis.png Episodes - Coming Out To Your Kids - Libby and Catherine of Expansive Connection answer a listener question about coming out to older kids. SHOW LINKS Expansive Connection Expansive Connection Ethical Nonmonogamy Expansive Connection Coaching on Instagram https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/replay-the-holiday-minefield monthly 0.5 2022-12-06 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/9336a05d-bda4-43e0-b5fe-5eabf1097b98/the+holiday+minefield+.png Episodes - [Replay] The Holiday Minefield - Libby reviews some of the biggest challenges that can show up around the holiday season when you're non-monogamous and how to navigate them without exploding an already stressful season. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/theres-nothing-to-fear monthly 0.5 2022-11-22 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/23582fd9-7836-49e2-bfe8-ce0662facfae/new+information+shock-2.png Episodes - There's Nothing to Fear - LIbby talks about how important it is to talk about fears with our partners. How we respond when our partner shares a fear with us can make a tremendous difference in how we tend to them and ourselves. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/new-information-shock monthly 0.5 2022-11-18 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/18803e74-cc17-45fa-88be-dc866697bc4a/new+information+shock.png Episodes - New Information Shock - Libby describes the phenomenon known as New Information Shock and how to handle it when you encounter it in your relationships. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/the-most-important-step-of-repair monthly 0.5 2022-11-15 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/4f804440-44c6-49bc-9b28-3e1caf3fec8a/the+most+important+step+of+repair.png Episodes - The Most Important Step of Repair - If you want to make a good repair, there's one step that Libby wishes people prioritized more. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/breadcrumbing-and-signposting monthly 0.5 2022-10-18 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/7f005bb5-2835-46cc-a8f0-345c6b5b132e/breadcrumbing+and+signposting+%281%29.png Episodes - Breadcrumbing and Signposting - One tool that might help you with rocking-the-boat type conversations. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/agreements-are-great monthly 0.5 2023-12-29 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/8544142d-a13b-4d25-8230-dc4efd8e7b3d/agreements+are+great.png Episodes - Agreements Are Great - Libby talks about why she likes agreements, what purpose they serve in relationships, and some things to watch out for when making them with your partner(s). SHOW LINKS Why Predicting Future feelings is So Difficult https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/where-is-this-going monthly 0.5 2023-12-29 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/b1a29a71-8d8c-45eb-a1bb-efacd9796a56/where+is+this_going_.png Episodes - Where Is This Going? - Libby speaks about the Relationship Escalator, and talks about some ways she has found to step off it. SHOW LINKS Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator Solo Poly https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/how-do-i-know-if-im-poly monthly 0.5 2023-12-29 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/2d90bfd0-0e34-494d-bb2f-71ef56e76a48/how+do+i+know++if+i%27m+poly.png Episodes - How Do I Know if I'm Poly? - Libby is joined by Multiamory's Dedeker Winston to answer a listener who asks two questions: how do I know if I'm polyamorous? And how should I go about dating if I'm not sure? SHOW LINKS Dedeker Winston Multiamory Kathy Labriola's Jealousy Workbook https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/food monthly 0.5 2022-09-15 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/5ac446c4-86ce-408e-b519-0469d0854714/food.png Episodes - FOOD - Libby names the 10th relationship of a modern marriage: food https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/save-a-room-in-a-crisis monthly 0.5 2022-09-15 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/aa5def42-80bd-47b2-8eac-b88101c2d58c/leave+room+in+a+crisis.png Episodes - Save Room in a Crisis - Libby talks about the costs of operating your time, energy, and attention at full capacity by default, and why it's worth considering intentionally having more downtime to recharge and also so that you have some room to push if there's a need or crisis. SHOW LINKS Happiness is Other People One Secret to Happiness: Relationships Why Your Brain Needs More Downtime Fuck your Dig Deep Button https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/9-relationships-of-a-modern-marriage monthly 0.5 2022-09-20 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/8fb13807-115f-43eb-8aef-a17adc5b9c62/the+9+relationships+of+a+modern+marriage.png Episodes - 9 Relationships of a Modern Marriage - Did you know that marriage as conventionally practiced in the 21st century (in a lot of the world at least) is actually like... 9 different relationships. In this episode, Libby explains those 9 relationships, and how what marriage is trying to do is pack a whole village into one other person. She asks the question, what could we do instead that might work better? SHOW LINKS Marriage, a History, by Stephanie Coontz The Relational Nonmonogamy Circle https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/know-your-power monthly 0.5 2022-04-22 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/043d39e4-7090-4f0a-8248-b19fffaee1cd/know+your+power.png Episodes - Know Your Power - How empowered are you in your relationships? Have you stopped to notice where you might be disempowered... or too empowered? In this episode, Libby talks about power dynamics and how important it is to name them if you want to have relationally-empowered partnerships. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/on-drop monthly 0.5 2022-04-18 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/7033564b-2c5e-4f96-9820-8c0285aac0af/on+drop.jpg Episodes - On Drop - Do you know what drop is? In this episode, Libby explains drop, what it is, why it's rough, and what you can do to make it a little easier to deal with. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/veto-happens monthly 0.5 2022-04-06 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/4240ff37-812e-43bc-a5ca-38039856bb77/veto+happens.jpg Episodes - Veto Happens - The relationship veto is a controversial topic in polyamory circles. Libby talks about what vetoes are, how they can happen without being called a veto, and how they aren't always a bad thing. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/yes-intent-does-matter monthly 0.5 2022-03-29 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/f7ebd631-559a-4b5b-81f4-ba509694540e/yes+intent+does+matter.jpg Episodes - Yes, Intent Does Matter - Intent doesn't matter." That statement has cropped up in multiple conversations online and in person over the years. In this epsiode, Libby shares why that simply isn't true, at least not when it comes to a valued relationship. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/for-your-mom monthly 0.5 2022-03-21 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/b97ce374-4971-4e25-ae06-b347758d955a/for+your+mom.jpg Episodes - For Your Mom - In this episode, Libby speaks to parents of adult polyamorous children who may be having a hard time with the idea. SHOW LINKS It's Called Polyamory: https://thorntreepress.com/its-called-polyamory/ When Someone You Love is Polyamorous: https://thorntreepress.com/when-someone-you-love-is-polyamorous/ The Coffee Break Primer on Polyamory: https://adapowers.medium.com/the-coffee-break-polyamory-primer-6c64b4dc53de This Heart Holds Many, My Life as the Nonbinary Millennial Child of a Polyamorous Family: https://thorntreepress.com/thisheartholdsmany/ The Polyamorists Next Door on Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/are-you-checking-in-or-checking-out monthly 0.5 2022-03-14 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/52f2d2ac-c87d-4158-8620-1d7f08b0f962/are+you+checking+out+or+checking+in_.jpg Episodes - Are you Checking Out or Checking In? - One of the most important things in relationship is to act with intention rather than reactivity, but if we're so busy and distracted all the time, it's really hard to slow down enough to do anything but react when we're upset. Libby invites you to ask yourself this question, "Are you checking out or checking in?" SHOW LINKS Your Smartphone is Making you Stupid: https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2017/08/a-sitting-phone-gathers-brain-dross/535476/ Proactive vs. Reactive: https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/307309 Smartphone addiction: https://sitn.hms.harvard.edu/flash/2018/dopamine-smartphones-battle-time/ Tara Brach and RAIN: https://www.tarabrach.com/rain/ https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/doing-it-in-a-group monthly 0.5 2022-03-09 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/471bd8a2-4867-4dac-8952-a007fd5933e4/group+sex.jpg Episodes - Doing It in a Group - In this epsiode, Libby gives you her best tips for having awesome sexytimes with groups of 3 or more. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/asking-needs-to-be-okay-zc3xd monthly 0.5 2022-03-07 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/ee0db19b-5fab-4af8-bb74-53e03a2c2de4/the+still+face.jpg Episodes - The Still Face - Libby talks about the effect withdrawal patterns can have on our nervous systems, and how to navigate that if it is showing up in your relationship. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/asking-needs-to-be-okay monthly 0.5 2022-03-07 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/4b0744d9-fd31-4ced-98d1-727a9af988c3/asking+needs+to+be+okay.jpg Episodes - Asking Needs To Be Okay - There are times in our relationships when we really need something from our partners. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/this-may-be-a-bitter-pill monthly 0.5 2022-03-04 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/9029de4a-6eb7-46e3-9655-fdf85879f11d/this+may+be++a+bitter+pill.jpg Episodes - This May Be a Bitter Pill - Sometimes in our relationships we reach a point where something needs to change or it just won't work for us. But is that even possible? Or do you have to break up? Libby goes over two losing strategies that a lot of people try when they want something different from their partner than what they're getting, and offers what she believes is a better way to get what you want. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/asking-needs-to-be-okay-xra2b monthly 0.5 2022-03-09 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/f91f0644-1a53-430b-a2bd-61af460e205a/when+is+it++okay+to+have++one+p_nis+policy_.jpg Episodes - When is it Okay to Have a One P*nis Policy? - By listener request, Libby talks about the one p*nis policy and why it's not a great idea (and the one time it's okay.) CN: language. Libby uses several words for the male genitalia on this episode. RECOMMENDED READING For the Love of Men by Liz Plank The Will to Change by bell hooks I Don't Wanna Talk About It by Terrence Real Playing Fair by Pepper Mint https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/getting-closure monthly 0.5 2022-03-04 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/4b0744d9-fd31-4ced-98d1-727a9af988c3/asking+needs+to+be+okay.jpg Episodes - Getting Closure - In her recent workshop Break Up Better, Libby answers a question from a participant: "How can I get the other person to own their part to help with closure [after a breakup]?" The Break Up Better Workshop is still available! You can purchase the recording here: https://libbysinback.com/break-up-better/ https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/the-great-divide monthly 0.5 2022-03-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/1981f979-154b-4408-b765-e083e7a29a48/the+great+divide.jpg Episodes - The Great Divide with Terry Real - Libby has special guest Terry Real join her on the show to talk about how patriarchy does its work on our relationships, even for those of us who choose to do things differently. Terry Real's website: https://terryreal.com https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/a-rule-is-just-a-bad-agreement monthly 0.5 2022-03-04 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/3b951140-4fe5-492a-b483-beb34e5f8e0d/a+rule+is+just+a+bad+agreement.jpg Episodes - A Rule is just a Bad Agreement - Libby blows up the idea that there is any difference between rules and agreements and offers some alternative ways to communicate and negotiate needs in polyamorous relationships. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/coming-out monthly 0.5 2022-03-04 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/f1509107-d824-4fe7-8d79-2cee4b5bde10/coming+out.jpg Episodes - Coming Out - Libby shares her best tips for coming out as polyamorous, mostly hard won through her own coming out mishaps. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/whos-it-for monthly 0.5 2022-03-09 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/a741f99a-8111-4b48-95fb-11a88a306d2c/who%27s+it+for_.jpg Episodes - Who's it for? - In this episode, Libby outlines 3 different scenarios in which it's unclear who is the giver and who is the receiver, and how to use a magical tool called the Wheel of Consent to help answer this question. Betty Martin's website: https://bettymartin.org/ The Wheel of Consent: https://bettymartin.org/videos/ https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/the-holiday-minefield monthly 0.5 2022-03-02 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/122d9d99-145c-48dd-be0c-caf26fec7db6/the+holiday+minefield+.jpg Episodes - The Holiday Minefield - Libby reviews some of the biggest challenges that can show up around the holiday season when you're non-monogamous and how to navigate them without exploding an already stressful season. Kathy Labriola on Polyam Holidays: https://www.kathylabriola.com/articles/poly-holiday-tips Elisabeth Sheff on not coming out during the holidays: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-polyamorists-next-door/201612/poly-the-holidays The Relational Nonmonogamy Circle: https://libbysinback.com/rnmc https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/when-your-partner-has-a-mental-health-crisis monthly 0.5 2022-03-04 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/3c5d9aea-265b-45a7-a028-466230a2a236/when+your++partner+has+a+mental+health+crisis.jpg Episodes - When Your Partner Has A Mental Health Crisis - On this episode, Libby is joined by Mel Cassidy of Radical Relationship Coaching to discuss a question from a listener about how to navigate polyamory when a partner is struggling with their mental health. Visit Mel on the web: http://radicalrelationshipcoaching.ca/ https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/responding-to-shitty-feedback monthly 0.5 2022-02-21 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/b0adf310-66e0-4cbd-be8a-700ce173b063/responding+to++shitty+feedback.jpg Episodes - Responding to Shitty Feedback - In this episode, Libby talks about how to respond when someone you love gives you feedback from a hurtful, attacking or otherwise unhelpful place. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/the-most-important-phase-of-a-relationship monthly 0.5 2022-02-21 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/d0e6dfcb-c56b-4ffc-be25-609e371b7c7b/the+most+important+phase+of+a+relationship.jpg Episodes - The Most Important Phase of a Relationship - In this episode, Libby discusses the 6 phases of relationships, and the one that she thinks is the most important, and most often overlooked. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/im-baaaaaaack monthly 0.5 2022-03-07 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/0684e3bc-20de-40c9-87b4-0cfdded2810c/i%27m+baaaaaaack.jpg Episodes - I'm Baaaaaaack - After an unexpectedly long hiatus, Making Polyamory Work returns. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/discovering-your-queerness monthly 0.5 2022-03-07 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/8db39f0b-15ea-4808-a587-36b7f57da403/discovering+your+queerness.jpg Episodes - Discovering Your Queerness - Libby invites her best friend Mara on the podcast to answer a listener who recently discovered they were queer. Libby and Mara what it was like for them to realize you're queer later in life. Bisexual vs. Pansexual: https://www.minus18.org.au/articles/what's-the-difference-between-bisexual-and-pansexual Does Being Polyamorous Mean that You're Queer Belong: https://medium.com/polyamory-today/polyamory-and-the-lgbt-community-3a8a52debbc3 https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/being-asked-to-step-back monthly 0.5 2022-03-10 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/1c72d8a1-3f46-454d-a200-879edc17a99a/being+asked++to+step+back.jpg Episodes - Being Asked to Step Back - This episode welcomes a special guest, Mary Thuell, to answer a listener question about being asked to put her relationship on pause so her partner can work things out in their nested relationship. Mary and Libby share their thoughts and experiences with this situation. SHOW LINKS She's a Polyamorous Sunday School Teacher Emily Dickenson's Letter to Mary Bowles https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/say-thank-you-to-your-jealousy monthly 0.5 2022-03-10 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/04044673-1460-498a-a36a-9fd4b1f0c450/say+thank+you+to+your+jealousy.jpg Episodes - Say Thank You to Your Jealousy - Libby shares one way she likes to handle jealousy - say thank you to it? OTHER GREAT RESOURCES ON JEALOUSY The Jealousy Workbook: Insights and Techniques for Managing Open Relationships by Kathy Labriola The Jealousy Survival Guide by Kitty Chambliss Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/what-if-my-partners-other-relationship-is-abusive monthly 0.5 2022-03-11 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/eec10555-ae34-4d46-8a90-61dfa821814b/what+if+my+partner%27s+other+relationship++is+abusive_.jpg Episodes - What if My Partner's Other Relationship is Abusive? - Libby invites Shannon Perez-Darby to answer a listener question about what to do when you're in a relationship with someone who is in what appears to be an abusive relationship. CN: abuse, domestic violence Shannon Perez-Darby Resources for Accountability and Transformative Justice and Supporting Safer Communities Friendship as Social Justice Activism https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/nobody-wants-to-be-a-wet-blanket monthly 0.5 2022-03-07 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/f9ff6b0b-e238-4e16-bb58-4c65bad59d7b/nobody+wants+to+be+a+wet+blanket.jpg Episodes - Nobody Wants to Be a Wet Blanket - In this episode, Libby introduces an unusually effective tool for combatting overconfidence without ruining the fun when you're in the throes of new relationship energy. Freakonomics Episode on Failure https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/will-the-kids-be-alright monthly 0.5 2022-03-11 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/f9ff6b0b-e238-4e16-bb58-4c65bad59d7b/nobody+wants+to+be+a+wet+blanket.jpg Episodes - Will the Kids Be Alright? - Finally an episode on polyamorous parenting. Libby shares her take. RESOURCES How to Talk so Kids Will Listen & Listen so Kids Will Talk Untamed On Disruption Slow Down to Break Up https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/did-you-miss-me monthly 0.5 2022-03-09 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/c8cbfe19-e8f6-4882-8d23-5c9d27836904/did+you+miss+me_.jpg Episodes - Did You Miss Me? - In this episode, Libby talks about the gift of time apart. RESOURCES Esther Perel: Sex Needs Space https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/whats-wonderful monthly 0.5 2022-03-11 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/40e72bbb-98a3-4f6f-ae7c-5bc19fb95d55/what%27s+wonderful.jpg Episodes - What's Wonderful - In this episode, Libby offers ways to create a culture of appreciation within your relationship, and why that is important, but also how it can sometimes be hard. RESOURCES The Gottman Institute on a Culture of Appreciation I Appreciate... Exercise https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/got-a-problem-dont-solve-it monthly 0.5 2022-03-04 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/2d5b0b8a-eb7e-4998-bc9f-d9d7be9dbe33/got+a+problem_+don%27t+solve+it.jpg Episodes - Got a Problem? Don't Solve It - In this episode, Libby talks about issues that seem to have no clear good solution. Her suggestion? Understanding the problem is more important than solving it RESOURCES Dreams Within Conflict Worksheet No Advice, Please (how to hold space) https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/libby-plus-one-the-trap-of-easy monthly 0.5 2022-03-10 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/acf2218c-90c1-46c3-aa3d-3cbf4b8adde3/stress+in+relationships.jpg Episodes - Libby Plus One: The Trap of Easy - On this episode, Libby is joined by her partner Kyrr to talk about why it's important to acknowledge the truth about change. SHOW LINKS Giving Kickass Feedback (and When Not To) https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/stress-in-relationships monthly 0.5 2022-03-11 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/acf2218c-90c1-46c3-aa3d-3cbf4b8adde3/stress+in+relationships.jpg Episodes - Stress in Relationships - Lots of tips in this episode! Libby talks about techniques to manage stress and why it's so important for you and your relationships. SHOW LINKS Emotional Mindfulness Exercise Box Breathing Video Burnout by Emily and Amelia Nagoski Taming your Whoosh Moving from Complaint to Request Stress Reducing Conversation https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/hinges-lets-talk monthly 0.5 2022-03-07 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/ad5474ac-545d-4ca4-9504-e023ec8f8cae/hinges%2C+let%27s+talk.jpg Episodes - Hinges, Let's Talk - This episode is for you if you're a hinge or the point in a "vee." There's a very common trap that many hinge partners fall into that you must avoid if you don't want to be a sucky hinge. Want to know more? Listen to Libby to learn the most essential hinging skill. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/mono-poly-and-nre monthly 0.5 2022-03-09 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/1645584251117-6EC07O16XDP1Z86T9LT6/libby+plus+one_+mono-poly++and+nre+.jpg Episodes - Libby Plus One: Mono-Poly and NRE - Libby is joined by a plus one in this special bonus episode. In it Libby and her guest provide advice to an anonymous post on Reddit in r/polyamory. This post is both about NRE and also being in a mono-poly hierarchical partnership. SHOW LINKS Original r/polyamory post MPW post on NRE https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/how-to-nre monthly 0.5 2022-03-07 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/4240486d-53af-459d-9156-ac86687a08de/how+to+nre+.jpg Episodes - How to NRE - Is the thought of a new relationship exciting -- or terrifying? In this episode, Libby goes into what happens when you're in a new relationship and all wrapped up in its energy, and offers some practical tips on how to navigate it. SHOW LINKS Casual Love, by Carsie Blanton Science on the brain in love: https://www.eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2005-05/aps-lai053105.php https://neuro.hms.harvard.edu/harvard-mahoney-neuroscience-institute/brain-newsletter/and-brain/love-and-brain https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/intentional-vs-incidental-time monthly 0.5 2022-03-07 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/5540d752-7593-47a5-ab16-7d4b03245848/intentional+vs.+incidental+time.jpg Episodes - Intentional vs. Incidental Time - Love is infinite, but time is not, and the struggle is real. In this episode, Libby offers a frame for looking at time that may be at the root of some of your challenges around time, and some creative ideas how to navigate time limitations by looking at not just the amount, but the type of time you're spending with the people you love. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/its-business-time monthly 0.5 2022-03-07 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/96747056-67c0-4e41-8d43-f40a79cc6d51/it%27s+business+time.jpg Episodes - It's Business Time - But like, serious business. SHOW LINKS Listen Up Episode Rock the Boat Episode Multiamory's RADAR https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/giving-kickass-feedback-and-when-not-to monthly 0.5 2022-03-09 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/cb6ab2d5-1276-493e-a4fd-e53375707d9b/giving+kickass+feedback++%28and+when+not+to%29.jpg Episodes - Giving Kickass Feedback (and When Not To) - Libby discusses feedback in greater depth: what it is, what it isn't, and how to do it exceptionally well. Resources The Feedback Fallacy (from the Harvard Business Review) The Engaged Feedback Checklist (pdf download) The Feedback Wheel (infographic) https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/in-a-crisis-find-your-ring monthly 0.5 2022-03-07 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/e082431d-61aa-4da6-9191-162d8e4d982c/in+a+crisis%2C+find+your+ring.jpg Episodes - In a Crisis, Find Your Ring - Libby explains Ring Theory and how it can help people know what to say and to whom in a moment of crisis. Content note: this episode will talk about the outcry against police violence toward Black people and how Ring Theory can help white people respond and support the movement for Black lives. Resources How Not to Say the Wrong Thing by Susan Silk and Barry Goldman Stacey Patton on White Women's Tears and Social Media Didi Delgado's Podcast and Facebook and Patreon Kate Anthony: 5 Racist Anti-Racism Responses “Good” White Women Give to Viral Posts Confronting racism is not about the needs and feelings of white people by Ijeoma Oluo How to be a good white ally, according to activists Scaffolded Anti-Racist Resources ----------------------- WHERE TO SEND YOUR RESOURCES Invest in your local community - patronize Black-owned businesses. Support local organizations creating alternatives to policing. Here's are some places to start: Donate to your local Black Lives Matter Chapter Donate to your Local Bail Fund Donate to the National Bail Out (if they're still taking donations) Black Visions Collective https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/slow-down-to-break-up monthly 0.5 2022-03-11 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/a5e147c5-08c1-4ffd-a0dd-4f42e91b445b/repair+and+repair+again.jpg Episodes - Repair and Repair Again - In this episode, Libby talks about repair, how essential it is to having secure relationships, and outlines the steps for how to make a good repair. *From Libby: to my listeners who have been following this podcast for awhile, this is to replace the episode "If You Break if, Fix It" - which was pulled, because it didn't say what I wanted it to say. I'm much much happier with this version, which is VERY different. Resources Ed Tronick's Work on Repair Study of Parents and Preschoolers and Repair Gottman Insitute: Repair is the Secret Weapon of Emotionally Connected Couples https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/repair-and-repair-again-4kfnt monthly 0.5 2022-03-10 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/f856adfe-a168-48db-b2e7-246f5016183a/slow+down++to+break+up.jpg Episodes - Slow Down to Break Up - Libby shares her most important advice for people who are breaking up or on the brink (and even if you're not) -- slow down. Resources Breaking up on Valentine's Day Normalizing Non-monogamy interview on Relationship Transitions Download the Peaceful Relationship Transitions Playbook https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/have-better-sex-with-this-one-weird-trick monthly 0.5 2022-03-07 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/c46d9307-6f86-4db3-a6a7-f4652291ab0b/have+better+sex+with+this+one+weird+trick.jpg Episodes - Have Better Sex With This One Weird Trick - Libby gives some sex advice for your long-term relationships. It's good. Just listen. Resources Watch the Movie: Friend with Benefits 7 Ways To Make Practicing Affirmative Consent Sexy 27 Alternatives to Asking "Is This Okay?" https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/when-life-is-turned-upside-down monthly 0.5 2022-03-10 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/e7df80b7-6fdd-4934-9045-c760ee8707c5/when+life+is++turned+upside+down.jpg Episodes - When Life is Turned Upside Down - In this episode, Libby talks about disruption and offers a 5 step process to move through it more easily. Resources MORE READING 3 Vital Skills for the Age of Disruption How to Find Meaning in Suffering https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/taking-my-own-medicine monthly 0.5 2022-03-10 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/62834f12-5ca2-442d-b545-f46a1a5b9bc1/taking+my+own+medicine.jpg Episodes - Taking My Own Medicine - A quick update on why Libby took down last week's episode on repair, and what she'll be doing instead. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/the-autonomy-problem monthly 0.5 2022-03-11 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/5d81438d-0493-4cdb-9e27-510358092762/the+autonomy+problem.jpg Episodes - The Autonomy Problem - In this episode, Libby gets real about what COVID-19 means for polyamorous people, but how it's also teaching all of us an essential lesson about our relationships - which is that autonomy is an illusion. We need that lesson right now. But we also always did. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/polyamorous-in-a-pandemic-part-1-remember-love monthly 0.5 2022-03-10 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/41287f6e-965c-451e-b0bf-87036abc17d7/Polyamorous+in+a+Pandemic+Part+1_+Remember+Love.jpg Episodes - Polyamorous in a Pandemic Part 1: Remember Love - Things look pretty different in the world today than they did two weeks ago. Libby has a message for everyone as we face down new and challenging circumstances. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/look-where-youre-going monthly 0.5 2022-03-07 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/07018a39-b928-4afd-b646-fd5d9d2a795f/look+where++you%27re+going.jpg Episodes - Look Where You're Going - In this episode, Libby talks about keeping your attention and energy toward what's really important. SHOW LINKS Kimchi Cuddles The comic I referenced Download the Relationship Vision Worksheet https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/when-your-meta-dont-wanna monthly 0.5 2022-03-11 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/0c062949-0ea4-4055-9faa-e491001ed219/when+your+meta+don%27t+wanna.jpg Episodes - When Your Meta Don't Wanna - In this episode Libby talks about how to navigate things when metamours don't want to be friends. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/no-advice-please monthly 0.5 2022-03-07 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/2574ebd4-a7e6-479a-bbdb-0650d0d30d28/no+advice%2C+please.jpg Episodes - No Advice, Please - Learning to hold space for people you love is an essential relationship skill. In this episode, Libby breaks down what holding space is, why it's important, and how to practice it What it Means to Hold Space for Someone by Heather Plett 11 Ways to Hold Space for Someone by Reaca Pearl https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/the-art-of-time-outs monthly 0.5 2022-03-11 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/c413762e-4ebb-4e90-8095-b1a759ced5c6/the+art+of++time+outs.jpg Episodes - The Art of Time Outs - Taking a time out is so important when things get heated or uncomfortable. However, there are more useful and less useful ways to take a time out. In this episode, Libby lays out how to take a time out in a way that enhances, rather than disrupts, connection. Resources Black Poly Pride: June 4-7, 2020 in Washington, DC Terry Real's 10 Commandments of a Time Out https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/taming-your-whoosh monthly 0.5 2022-03-11 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/1645678879304-Z4REVI2ZA7ZYTNIEQIK3/taming+your++whoosh.jpg Episodes - Taming your Whoosh - The most essential skill to having healthier relationships. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/fingers-crossed monthly 0.5 2022-03-07 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/1645679698187-KZPXE5O2DQTMAEA7HEXY/fingers+crossed.jpg Episodes - Fingers Crossed - In this episode, Libby offers an idea on making upcoming difficult situations smoother, easier and more connecting. https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/couple-privilege-and-power monthly 0.5 2022-03-09 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/1645680381705-EBCU5NR27OQWLT7KNGGI/couple+privilege+and+power.jpg Episodes - Couple Privilege and Power - Libby answers a listener question about navigating sharing a home and sharing that home with other partners. SHOW LINKS Couple Privilege: having it doesn't necessarily make you an asshole (but it might) by Amy Gahran 5 Reasons Couple Privilege Doesn't Exist by Lola Phoenix 'why do couples stop having sex?' is the wrong question by Emily Nagoski Navigating Difficult Conversations https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/attachment-styles-and-you monthly 0.5 2022-03-07 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/1645681153824-B0P0I2066IKO7I2WK1G7/attachment+styles+and+you.jpg Episodes - Attachment Styles and You - Libby explains the theory of attachment styles and what they might mean for your relationships. (All of this stuff is Googleable, y'all, if you want to know more. ) https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/how-could-you-think-that-of-me monthly 0.5 2022-03-07 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/1645682159974-17ON6AUGIDK4UO5VCP55/how+could+you+think+that+of+me_.jpg Episodes - How Could You Think That of Me? - Libby talks about what to do when we don't feel seen by the people we love. SHOW LINKS Feeling Understood — Even More Important Than Feeling Loved? https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/201706/feeling-understood-even-more-important-feeling-loved Neural Bases of Being Understood and not Understood: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4249470/ On Feeling Understood and Feeling Well: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2652476/ Loneliness: a disease? https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3890922/ Brené Brown and True Belonging: https://ideas.ted.com/finding-our-way-to-true-belonging/ https://www.makingpolyamorywork.com/episodes/disclosure-afterthoughts monthly 0.5 2022-03-07 https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/6201a01a605e05762b2b4ef3/1645682838024-N7B31EXVKHRHY3AP448B/disclosure+afterthoughts.jpg Episodes - Disclosure Afterthoughts - Libby answers her first listener question on the show, where a listener asks, does it always make sense to disclose potential dealbreakers before the first date? 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